AGONY

I’m getting past my sell-by date and I’m hopeless at selling myself. My friend keeps nagging me to try internet dating but the very thought of it makes me want to curl up and die. I’ve been single for five years now and I’m fed up with it. I know my happiness isn’t dependent on another human being and I love and respect myself etc. etc. but I still want to be in a caring relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

ANSWER

Of course you do. But it may mean you have to step out of your comfort zone and face the realities of 21st century dating. Recent research has shown that today more couples meet via the internet than in pubs and clubs. So forget about the singles bars and lonely-hearts columns of yesteryear, find a decent holiday snap and get yourself online.

 

Many singles cringe at the thought of internet dating before trying it, believing, unjustly, that it’s the exclusive territory of loners and weirdoes. But don’t you think it makes a lot more sense to find out whether or not somebody’s potential dating material via email, messenger or phone rather than last thing at night in a noisy bar after a few too many vodkas?

 

Okay, so the downside is that when you get to meet in the flesh there may be no chemistry between you, and you obviously have to take precautions where your personal security is concerned, but on the plus side – especially if you’re shy – you’ll have already broken the ice in the safety of your own home.

 

Sell-by dates aren’t an issue where internet dating is concerned – you’ll be relieved to hear – as people of all ages, incomes, colours, religions, shapes, sizes and interests are out there looking for a suitable match. Not many strike lucky on their first date, so be prepared, in the meantime, to kiss a few frogs, and try not to see every ‘wink’ that isn’t followed up as a personal rejection. 

 

If, as you say, you really are hopeless at selling yourself, take a look at mysinglefriend where your profile is written by a personal friend. Get that nagging friend of yours to do the selling for you! Good luck.

 

 

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