
In the following extract from her inspiring memoir Raising Tiffany, writer and life-coach Deborah Trenchard shares some heartfelt realisations about the true meaning of motherhood
The best in me was born out of having a child with complex developmental challenges, with special needs. ‘How could that be?’ Someone asked recently, eyeballing me quizzically from head to toe. And without a moment’s hesitation I shared some of the deepest realisations I’ve had over the years as I mothered Tiffany.
Want to communicate more effectively? Diane Southam shares some ideas
AGONY
I’m getting past my sell-by date and I’m hopeless at selling myself. My friend keeps nagging me to try internet dating but the very thought of it makes me want to curl up and die. I’ve been single for five years now and I’m fed up with it. I know my happiness isn’t dependent on another human being and I love and respect myself etc. etc. but I still want to be in a caring relationship.
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Wayne Dyer’s Your Erroneous Zones
helped David James crawl out of a black hole
Some twenty odd years ago a friend passed on to me a book by Wayne Dyer called Your Erroneous Zones. He had, in fact, purchased it in error, having misread the title as Your Erogenous Zones! This was my first introduction to Dyer who is known by his fans as the 'father of motivation'. My disappointed friend hadn’t got beyond the first few pages. I, on the other hand, couldn’t put the book down.
AGONY
My boyfriend tells me all the time he loves me but I can't trust him.
I look at his text messages when he's in the shower and I read his emails when he goes out. Last week I followed him to his sister's flat to make sure that he really was going there to watch a match. I'm terrified he'll catch me out and dump me. I feel disgusted with myself but I can't seem to stop. I think I might have OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) because I can't seem to be able to relax until I've done all this checking.